“Death is a tragic thing, only if you haven’t lived.” ~Tyler Perry’s Family That Preys
Here we are, month two of 2013 and interestingly enough, it is time to take a little step back and think to the very beginning of the year. As a reminder, here at LFF we focused on challenging new year’s resolutions with the commitment to being WIPs-Works in Process (check out the 12.30.12 post for a refresher). Some of you have reached out sharing some of your progress, which is fabulous! Some have shared some hiccups to the progress, which is natural by the way, and unfortunately, have pulled out of the process.
For instance, someone shared that at the beginning of the year, she made a commitment to taking more time for herself in an effort to gain more balance and because she’s gotten to a place of more financial stability than she’s ever had in the past, she was going to plan monthly, three-day getaways, a quarter at a time. So, she started to plan for Q1 with a January adventure, was distracted and never did it and all of a sudden, it’s not important to start looking into February…HER BIRTHMONTH BY THE WAY!!!! Yup, totally putting you on blast…you know who you are. Now I’m being a bit tough but here’s the reality….one month of delay can turn to two, which turns to half a year, another year, and then we’re 25, 35, 45 55 etc talking about the things we thought we were going to do and never did…the goals we wanted to accomplish, and never did….the impact we wanted to have, and never set ourselves up to. Then ultimately, time lessens its patience with us and we depart, never having lived the life we knew we were purposed to live.
Now, this is going to get a little dark, but stay with me and I promise it’s going to get real good…
A former colleague of mine was the daughter of a very well-to do mortician who shared that she learned very early on that death was just part of life and though loss was always hard to deal with, it was part of the living experience. Unfortunately, a few of those close to me have lost loved ones early in this new year but every single one of them has had a certain peace about their loss like this colleague of mine. When I think about each of them and their responses when I shared my condolensces, it’s really because they could look back over the life of the individual they’d lost and see that they had truly lived life to the fullest that they were truly ok.
My grandmother passed years ago but her death was as much of an inspiration as her strength, wit, and grace in life. She definitely knew her time was up and her last words were,
“God has blessed me with a good life, a caring husband who was with me until his last days, three beautiful daughters, six gracious grandchildren, I am satisfied.”
I am satisfied…her last three words inspired a poem I wrote for my mom to help her through the loss as a reflection of what I believe my grandmother would have said to her. I share this to say that when my grandmother passed at 92, she was satisfied and we knew it because she lived her life to the fullest, for her, and so all we could do was celebrate her life…we didn’t fall apart as if her death was tragic, it was an inspiration.
Now, I realize this is a bit heavy and ok a little morbid but the major thing to take away from this is that we have to live our lives to the fullest. Our departure from this earth is only tragic if we don’t. So, today, my question to you is what does living life to the fullest mean to you?
Just think about you for a minute. No comparison to anyone else or consideration for what the world would say living life to the fullest is. What does living life to the fullest mean to you?
Once you’ve identified that, paint the picture through words. Yes, get to the journal and just pen it out. List every detail of this full picture for you.
Next, clearly make note of
1. What’s keeping you from that life right now?
2. What’s in your control to limit the impact of these obstacles for you?
3. What will you do this week to begin living that picture for you?
Finally, just do it!!!! I know I am!!!!
Instead of a soundtrack of the week, let’s go for a video clip. See, I think Ellen Degeneres went through this process in some form or fashion and determined that part of her living life to the fullest included dancing whenever she felt moved to. She must’ve pictured what that would look like, and now she gets a full audience to join her in dancing every day she goes to work! And she didn’t even stop there, she extended her brand to SYTYCD and is now a “dance legend”! So, if nothing else, go ahead, dance!