I have always been a lover of words. Growing up, inspired by the likes of Langston Hughes and Maya Angelou, I could read for hours and hours and hours. Visiting my mom recently, I found a book of poetry I’d won scholarships for in high school. Behind all of this, I think what I really loved was the power to convey thoughts, feelings, emotions, and experiences through words, both simple and complex. Also, I just always had a lot to say, but, as surprising as this may be for you, I wasn’t always comfortable speaking my thoughts. I found more comfort in the power of written words over spoken words….my, how things have changed.
Connect with me for five minutes now and you’ll learn that I’ll talk to the wall if the wall will talk back….seriously. I just love speaking with people, learning their story, coaching, and most of all, I love speaking on important aspect of personal and professional development.
Now we all know that passion, without direction or purposeful intent, can be dangerous…it can get us into trouble .
So when it comes to words, the fabulously fierce understand the importance of saying what you mean and meaning what you say. One of the best reinforcements of this important factor I’ve ever heard is
“I think words matter. It’s worth the time to try to convey with precision, what you’re thinking and what you’re feeling.” ~Massachusettes Governor Deval Patrick
The reason this is so essential is because we are relational beings and everything we say either adds value or takes away from the positive experience others can have with us. There really can be no question to this. This is especially important as you also learn to discern your audiences. What I mean by this is there are just a few that I can lay my guard completely down with in terms of how careful I’m being with what I say. I love the reality of this because it’s so important. The reality however, is that my inner circle (picture of inner circle) is really small but with them, I really can just say whatever is in my heart, whenever, however, and not have the risk of being misunderstood. With others, not as close, again, discernment comes into play, which is totally ok, and actually, less about being guarded, and more about being intentional of getting across exactly what you mean, and yes, because we have to own our words, meaning what you say.
So, do you have something to address with someone, to communicate to a group, an email that you need to send that needs to be clear so nothing is misunderstood? If so
1-Take the time to really think about what it is you are trying to get across? What’s behind what you’re trying to get across…what do you mean?
2-What words do you know may be taken the wrong way if you are not clear with context and/or your intent?
3-What words do you know resonate?
4-What exactly will you say…yup write it, type it, practice saying it.
Then, just do it!
Be Fabulous! Be fierce! Say what you mean and mean what you say.