“Sometimes, I think of as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” -Alice, Alice in Wonderland
Impossibilities vs Possibilities. I think of these as two sides of a coin:
Though they have their own distinct definitions, it is pretty clear that the distinction is pretty simple: What can be and what can’t right? The impact may be significantly grand, but the distinction, that’s pretty simple.
So when we think of what we should focus on in our day to day, in our commitments to being and living fabulously fierce, wouldn’t it make sense to focus on what is possible instead of what is impossible. I mean, if I have the option of focusing on what is possible, eg spending part of my Sunday afternoon writing my next post, instead of what is not possible, eg picking up and joining the Alvin Ailey Dance Company to be a part of this year’s tour, what am I going to do? You see the fruits of the option I selected. So why, why in the world would Alice focus on six impossible things every morning? Why on God’s green earth would I focus today’s conversation on embracing the impossible? Well, because truly the difference between what is impossible and what is possible is nothing more than our mindset.
Before you start to counter right off the bat, please indulge in a little walk down memory lane if you will. Please? Ok, what was the last thing you did that you thought, at one time, just was not possible. Think really hard if you need to? At some point, we all face certain things, experiences, that really challenge us because we’ve not yet faced them. We’ve not yet envisioned experiencing them, let alone obtaining a sense of accomplishment in that experience. Then, opportunities to choose show up. We get to choose if we will face what we think is impossible and entertain the potential of possibility in the impossible and there, there lies the most critical difference. One perfect example is my friend Riem’s little girl right now, just starting to learn how to walk. You should see this little munchkin. Right now, walking is actually an impossibility for her. She’s never done it before. Every day though, every day, she’s getting closer and closer to trusting a little legs, her own ability, and embracing the fact that it may actually be possible. Her impossibility will soon be an unquestionable possibility!
The fierce Eleanor Roosevelt once said “All things possible were once thought impossible.” Something FBA’s Mrs. Joseph shared with me when I was wondering how in the world I was going to pass that AP History exam that has stuck with me to this day! And this is why Alice not only thinks of six impossible things before breakfast, she actually embraces those impossibilities as targets of potential possibility through her own shifted mindset.
So what does that leave for us to do? So glad you asked ( you are all always so great at that :). Well, we start, this week, going after what in our minds seems to be impossible.
Every day this week, before you even get out of bed,
- Specify one thing you’ve put into the “impossible” bucket
- Engage in some imagination play. Just humor yourself (or me) and imagine what the “possible” of that identified “impossibility” would look like. (I’m already at the Wang Theatre with the Ailey Troupe in April….in my head).
- Describe, out loud and/or in writing, what experiencing this “impossibility” as a “possibility” feels like.
- Embrace it by actually articulating it to just one person. Yup, just one.
- Seek. It. Out. What would the the beginnings of that impossibility being a possibility require? Whatever it is, go for it and do that!
- Live Fabulously Fierce!!!!!